FINDING THE DETERMINATION TO NEVER GIVE UP, AND NEVER QUIT! (Part 3)
The following are uncommon traits and attributes that you should work on cultivating to help you develop a mindset grounded in determination.
High Desire to Succeed
People who never give up cultivate within their heart a burning desire to succeed no matter how dire their circumstances may seem. Their desire to succeed is so strong that at times they may even become unreasonable when working their way through obstacles.
These people’s desire to succeed is strong because they have found effective ways to keep themselves motivated when the chips are down. They also happen to ask the right questions at the right times that focus them on finding a greater array of reasons to keep moving forward even when the outlook appears to be bleak.
People who never give up have an unwavering commitment to their goals and objectives.
Commitment naturally stems from an empowering set of beliefs that keep their gaze locked on their target until it is finally achieved.
To create unwavering commitment one needs to become crystal clear about the goals that they are working towards. Hence, these types of people set smart goals that will continue to propel them forward despite the challenges that lie in their way.
People who never give up cultivate a mindset of unstoppable determination. These people simply don’t take no for an answer. They see opportunities where others only perceive problems; they make the most use of every situation and keep moving forward no matter how the circumstances appear to be on the outside and despite other people’s pessimism and objections.
Determination and resolve are created through the cultivation of an empowering and optimistic attitude that pierces through obstacles like a knife through a loaf of bread.
People who never give up are self-sufficient and self-reliant individuals. Even though they continue to build their support network of contacts, they are in essence responsible only to themselves and their most sought after goals and objectives.
These people take responsibility for their losses as well as their gains wholeheartedly, without making excuses.
Because they are self-reliant, this makes them much more resourceful than other individuals. They always know where and how to find the resources, tools, strategies, techniques, and skills they need to assist them to move through each and every obstacle they confront. They are in essence very much like lions trapped against the corner of a cage. You would never bet against them when they have their backs against the wall.
Self-reliance is built upon the foundations of confidence.
Cultivation of Curiosity
People who never give up have an insatiable curiosity that encourages the formation of questions that most of us would never even consider asking.
They understand that curiosity brings effective problem solving and creative thinking strategies to the forefront of their minds. With these powerful tools at their disposal, no obstacle or challenge can stand in their way. If they happen to get stuck, then this only lasts for a fleeting moment while their curiosity-driven frame-of-mind goes into action.
Curiosity is built upon the foundation of asking effective questions.
People who never give up have an optimistic outlook that naturally breaks through barriers and obstacles standing in other people’s way. However, don’t mistake their optimism for stupidity in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. If it was only optimism that drove their behavior, then it would be easy to make this assumption. However, optimism coupled together with all the other qualities listed here, manifests a finely tuned biological machine who sees a vivid reality of each and every situation as it appears from a multitude of perspectives — all the while maintaining flexibility of thought that will take them over (or under) the obstacles that lie in their wake.
Optimism is an outcropping of confidence that stems from a deep desire and self-belief.
Patience through Thought and Action
People who never give up are extremely patient even though this might not be very evident to an outsider.
They need to be patient because achieving one’s goals and objectives take time. One needs time to acquire new skills, tools, support, strategies, techniques, resources, and insight in order to develop a plan that will successfully guide them towards the attainment of their dreams and aspirations.
Patience is a characteristic that is built upon the foundations of cultivating the habit of delayed gratification. This is difficult for most people to attain because our society is unfortunately built upon convenience stores. Yet, it is only through patience that we will obtain long-term pleasures rather than short-term fleeting moments of gratification that mean very little within the bigger scope of our goals and objectives.
Breaking through All Obstacles That Stand in Your Way
Having encoded a determination centered mindset into your brain, you are now ready to take the final step, which is creating unstoppable momentum through action and thought that will propel you at ever increasing speeds towards the attainment of your goals and objectives.
In this section we will take a closer look at the simple actions you should be taking that will help you to break through the obstacles that stand in your way.
The Key to Creating Momentum Begins with Your Approach
The manner in which you approach the obstacles that stand in your way will essentially determine how effectively and efficiently you move through the problems that are currently confronting your reality.
Any action you take must, in essence, confront the obstacle from a flexible, inquisitive, and proactive manner that is fun and moves through a process of regular small steps.
The challenges we face in life can become rather overwhelming very quickly. Unless we physically take the time to approach these obstacles in this specific fashion, then we risk de-motivating ourselves and stifling our future actions.
By following these guidelines you will find that your actions are more effective, and you will confront less resistance as you progress forward towards the attainment of your goals and objectives.
Setting SMART and Effective Goals
Goals are the physical manifestations of our dreams and aspirations.
Dreams and aspirations are wonderful and pleasant ideas that we keep in our minds. They are essentially feel-good visualizations, however, they have no concrete basis in reality. On the other hand, setting smart goals takes your dreams and aspirations and brings them forth into the physical world.
Without goals, you will have no direction. You will essentially find it difficult to develop unwavering commitment and motivation, and you will fall into the obstacle traps that we referred to within the first section of this post.
Goals effectively lay down the foundations for everything, and are the driving forces that will help you overcome any challenge that stands in your way.
Without goals, you are far more likely to quit than when you have them clearly laid out in front of you.
If you miss this step, and simply ignore the importance of the goal-setting process, then you will be like a leaf blowing in the wind — with direction and little hope, you will drift from circumstance to circumstance without ever achieving anything of significance or value.
Building Your Support Network
We discussed a little earlier on, that it takes time to build and grow a support network of people who will be there for you when you need them most.
As you are working your way through your challenges, you will effectively need to be building and growing your support network throughout this process. Your problems will naturally bring forth solutions in the most unlikely of places. As such you must never doubt anyone’s resources, skills or the assistance that they could essentially provide you with when the chips are down.
Always keep an open mind and continue to build your support network of people even when there are no apparent challenges along your path.
Acquiring New Proactive Habits
Proactive habits are regular actions you take and behaviors you adopt that keep moving you forward towards the attainment of your goals and objectives despite any obstacles that are currently blocking your path.
Proactive habits could be for instance asking effective solution-focused questions, taking the time to do your homework before undertaking certain actions, or simply making an effort to wake up at the same time each and every day, etc. It doesn’t matter what kind of habits you develop, as long as they are moving you forward towards the attainment of your desired outcomes.
On the other hand, if you are currently riddled with habits that may be sabotaging or holding you back from reaching these goals and objectives, then you must work on breaking yourself free of their grasp immediately. Otherwise, they will continue to sabotage your progress when unexpected obstacles cross your path.
Cultivating Foresight and Identifying the Possibilities that Lie Ahead
Finally, in order to overcome your obstacles successfully, you must cultivate the habit of utilizing foresightto identify the possibilities that may lie ahead. It is after-all better to be prepared for potential problems, then to naively overlook possible scenarios that could eventuate.
You should effectively utilize foresight to identify not only problems that may lie along your path, but also the knowledge and skills that you will need to master in order to minimize the resistance and friction that future obstacles may present.
If you only take one idea from this discussion, it is that life is not about what happens to us, but rather how we perceive, and what we do, with what happens.
As a final thought, I’d thought I leave you with a famous poem that was once given to me by my mum to help cultivate the attitude of persistence within my heart.
The author of this poem is unknown, ho, ever this person’s heart and determination speak louder than words. I hope you enjoy it.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out, The silver lining of the seeds of doubt, And you can never tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far, So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit, It’s when things go wrong that you must not quit.