Great people are just ordinary people with an extraordinary amount of determination. -ROBERT SCHULLER
Putting Your Problems into Perspective
Life always seems to present us with innumerable challenges and problems on a daily basis. It throws left hooks when we were expecting right ones; it gives us apples when we desire oranges; it even presents us with seemingly awful surprises that we weren’t expecting, and it bloats us with unresourceful emotions that tend to tie us down to a life of mediocrity and unhappiness.
Despite all this, it is not so much what happens to us that actually makes a difference, it is rather what we do with what happens to us that determines where we will end up, what we will have, and how we will be transformed by our experiences.
This IQ matrix and article delves into the details of the problems and obstacles that we face on a daily basis, providing us with a means to get through the lowest moments of our lives when everything seems to be falling on top of our heads.
Throughout this article, we will first identify the different faces of the obstacles, problems, and challenges that you may face on a daily basis. After which we will take a look at the reasons behind these obstacles and what they really mean to your life and future endeavors. Thirdly, we will work on developing a resilient mindset that will help you push through any challenges that life presents you with. And finally, we will discuss how to create unstoppable momentum that will guide you towards the attainment of your most passionate goals and objectives.
Never Give Up… Here Come the Obstacles
It is very easy to strive towards the attainment of our goals and objectives when the oceans are calm and nothing appears to be standing in our way. However, if we are not mentally prepared the moment something begins to stir the waters and rock the boat from side-to-side, we begin to panic and struggle to deal with our circumstances. We see these problems and challenges as larger than life and way beyond our capabilities and means.
These events may very well end up overwhelming us and causing great heartache and hardship. As a result, we may end up quitting and throwing in the towel of defeat, all because our resolve wasn’t strong enough to handle the burden associated with our journey towards the attainment of our objectives.
Within this section, we will take a look at the possible obstacles that may stand in our way as we progress along the path towards fulfilling our dreams. These obstacles essentially come in four distinct forms:
From within ourselves
Extending from our decisions and actions
Directed by other people
Originating within circumstance
Let’s now take a closer look at each of these in more detail:
The Obstacles Within Us!
Probably the toughest and most challenging obstacles that we face come from within ourselves. These obstacles are extremely challenging to overcome because in many instances we are simply blinded to their existence.
Your first objective is to identify these obstacles and endeavor to understand how they are affecting your life and perception of reality. Secondly, you must learn to deal with them in an effective and resourceful way that will once again help move you in the right direction.
Let’s now take a closer look at each of these obstacles in a little more detail.
Lack of Desire
A lack of desire means that you simply do not have enough emotion behind your actions. It means that the goals and objectives that you are working towards are not yet emotionally important enough. As a result, when obstacles come your way, you will not have the emotional reservoirs available to successfully deal with these challenges, and you will therefore likely succumb to your predicament without putting up a fight.
Lack of Self-Belief
When belief is lacking, you have very little hope of achieving anything of significance in your life.
The very moment an obstacle comes racing across your path, your lack of belief will manifest in two ways.
First, it will manifest as a lack of belief in yourself. Intrinsically you do not believe that you are good enough or worthy enough to achieve your goals and objectives.
Secondly, your weak belief systems result from not having enough confidence in your personal ability to successfully get through an obstacle in your path. As a result, you lack the will-power to persist when things get a little tough and somewhat unfamiliar.
Lack of Commitment
A lack of commitment is somewhat related to a lack of desire. However, when it comes to commitment it pretty much stems from your inability to manufacture enough why reasons to move you through the obstacles that stand in your way.
If you are unable to generate enough reasons to get you through an obstacle, then you will likely quit when the going gets tough.
It is also important to realize that your commitment levels are directly connected to the expectations that you initially formed when you began your journey towards the attainment of your objectives. If along your journey you are not meeting your expectations, then your commitment will waver and you will be more likely to quit in the face of adversity.
Asking too Many WHY Questions
‘Why’ questions are self-sabotaging programming tools that focus you on your inadequacies and weaknesses.
When things start to get a little challenging, and externally it begins to appear as though you are fighting against a losing cause, then ‘why’ questions will put the finishing touches on a journey filled with regret and unfulfilled objectives. The moment you start asking yourself…
Why does this always happen to me…?
Why do I always fail…?
Why is this always so difficult…?
Why is life always against me…?
…is the moment you should effectively pack up your bags and leave the Big Brother House.
These questions are self-sabotaging forces that will put you into a state of regret and emotional weakness. Avoid them at all costs.
Focusing on What ‘Don’t Want’
Whenever you are focusing on your problems, obstacles, and uncontrollable circumstances then you are at that moment focusing on things you don’t want in your life.
It is said that whatever you focus on will expand and envelop you in a new reality. Therefore, if you continue to focus on the things that you do not want, this will effectively expand the things you do not want in your reality.
All your thoughts, actions, behaviors and decisions will create an unresourceful state of weak-thinking that will likewise continue to sabotage your progress towards the attainment of your goals and objectives.
Being Riddled with Negative Emotions
A negative emotion is basically an emotion that puts you into an unresourceful state, which discourages action and effective decision making.
The emotions of worry, anxiety, doubt, overwhelm, anger, and guilt all work together to create a powerful self-sabotaging cocktail that will hypnotize you into a state of self-pity, that will likewise prevent you from achieving your goals and objectives.
Being Riddled with Fears
Over time, our negative emotions usually turn into uncontrollable fears that direct and dictate our daily decisions and actions. These fears will rob you of your life essence and desire to successfully move past the obstacles that stand in your way.
The fears of rejection, responsibility, success, and failure will leach and drain your energy of the life essence you need to attain your goals and objectives.
Being Riddled with Excuses
All the above mentioned self-sabotaging forces naturally feed the excuses that we build up within ourselves over time.
There would be no reason to make excuses if the above-mentioned forces weren’t directing our behavior. Yet, it is important to understand that in some ways our excuses are blessings in disguise, as they provide us with an insight into the self-sabotaging forces that are dominating our current reality and process of thinking.
Pay attention to the excuses you continuously make and identify where exactly they originate from. Identification is the first step that will set you on course towards taking control of your emotional responses. Ask yourself:
Do my excuses come from a lack of desire?
Do they come from a lack of self-belief?
Do they manifest as simply a lack of commitment on my part?
Am I making excuses because I’m asking too many ‘why’ questions?
Do my excuses come from the fact that I’m focusing on what I don’t want?
Or do they simply come from my negative emotions that are manifesting as fears?
Obstacles Manifesting through Our Actions
There is another set of obstacles that naturally manifest through our daily decisions and actions. These aren’t so much obstacles that come from within ourselves, but rather obstacles that come from a lack of judgment, understanding, insight and experience.
The first step is to identify these obstacles, while the second step is to incorporate strategies that will allow you to correct your course-of-action and set you on track towards the attainment of your goals and objectives.
In many instances, we sabotage our success and create unnecessary obstacles along our path simply because we rush our decision-making process.
We rush our decisions because of a lack of time or as a result of external pressures or circumstances. And the consequences of such inefficient decision making can sometimes cost us more than the process of refraining from making the decision in the first place.
Making Incorrect Decisions
Other times we simply make incorrect decisions due to a lack of understanding of a situation, or due to a lack of experience or resources.
In this instance, we actually take the time to carefully consider our decision-making process, and we come up with conclusions that we feel will best assist us to move forward along our journey towards the attainment of our objectives. Yet, a lack of judgment on our part can lead to the creation of unnecessary obstacles that could’ve been avoided if we had taken a slightly different approach.
Our habits are in essence the daily decisions we make, and the actions we take that manifest in the outcomes we experience within your lives.
Action related self-sabotaging habits such a laziness and procrastination, are ongoing obstacles that many of us fight against on a daily basis. Some of these habits are so deeply ingrained in our psyche, that it is difficult for us to understand how to overcome them successfully.
Obstacles Created by Other People
At times we are confronted by obstacles that are brought about by the decisions and actions of other people.
It is not so much other people that are to blame for creating the obstacles within our lives, it is rather our approach and how we deal with others that manifest the reality we experience. However, for this discussion let’s ignore that fact, and just take a look at how others influence and create interpersonal obstacles along our journey towards attaining our goals and objectives.
People Not Cooperating
When people do not cooperate or do not see things from your perspective, this can cause arguments and unresourceful time being spent on trying to convince others that your ideas and strategies are worthwhile and should be implemented.
If you want to succeed in life, you must obtain the cooperation of other people who can assist you along your journey. You must, in essence, become a person of influence.
People Sabotaging Your Progress
Sometimes people may purposefully try to sabotage your progress by doing things that will throw you off course in order to serve their own personal interests. This is a difficult obstacle to manage successfully if you have little experience in understanding the psychological tendencies of human behavior.
People Incorrectly Influencing Your Decisions and Actions
Even though some people may have the very best intentions for you and your future, this does not mean that their suggestions will be of greatest benefit for your future endeavors.
Other people simply may not have the right perspective or insight into a situation that would make them effective mentors when it comes to influencing your decision-making process. You must, therefore, be wary of the advice that people give you. By taking the wrong advice on board, you may end up creating more obstacles than you can handle.
Obstacles Springing from Circumstance
Finally, let’s take a quick look at the possible obstacles that could crop-up out of the changing circumstances of your life.
It is important to remember here that it is not what happens to us that makes a difference, it is rather how we respond to what happens that determines how successful we are at overcoming the challenges in our lives.
When Things Just Don’t Go As Planned
In this scenario, you have meticulously planned out every detail along the path towards achieving your goals and objectives. However, for one reason or another something unexpected happens and your plans are thrown off course and into another unforeseen direction that brings great stress and anguish.
When Problems and Uncertainty Expand
In this scenario, you successfully managed to handle the problems and obstacles that stood in your way. However, every time you manage to put an obstacle to rest, another problem pops up creating an even greater sense of uncertainty. It seems that the more problems you successfully deal with the deeper you dig yourself into further problems and challenges that appear to have no end.
When Circumstances Lead to the Appearance of Defeat
The above two scenarios of unending problems and uncertainty may, in essence, lead you to believe that defeat is only moments away. However, the reality of the situation may be somewhat different than what you might imagine.
Within the next section, we will discuss this in greater detail.
Reasons Behind all the Obstacles We Face
Obstacles are often only temporary roadblocks along our journey. For the most part, they are nothing more than interpretations that we make about people, events, ourselves and circumstances. Moreover, obstacles are there to teach us great lessons and help us to better understand our situation, others, ourselves, and the world around us.
Did you know that every obstacle that you face has an underlying reason for appearing within your reality?
Within this section will take a closer look at some of these reasons and identify what they really mean to your life and predicament.